When we thought of princesses, as little girls, we would wear fancy ballgowns and kiss a handsome prince, but in reality, not all princesses are like that. Princess Diana, though a woman of grace and elegance, was one badass. She shook up the royal family, changed tradition, and exposed the cracks the royal family had beneath the seams. Diana was a powerful woman, and unlike any royal princess, we've seen before. Here are ten moments when Diana was truly badass.
She removed "obey" from her wedding vows.
If there's on thing Diana was, it wasn't old-fashioned. She was a woman trying to break the traditional rules of the royal family and be a part of a progressive family. In 1981, Princess Diana and Prince Charles were married, but not before she removed the word "obey" from their vows.
This was a huge move as it was the first time a royal bride ever did that. But, from then on, she formed a new tradition, as Kate Middleton, Princess Eugenie, and Meghan Markle both removed the word "obey" from their vows.
She openly revealed her struggles with bulimia, self-harm, and postpartum depression.
Many people have a mental illness, and members of the royal family aren't exempt from this. In a famous interview with BBC's Martin Bashir back in 1995, she spoke openly about postpartum depression after the birth of her first child, Prince William, including also her history with bulimia and self-harm. She said her bulimia was "a symptom of what was going on in my marriage."
She also spoke about the lack of support from the royal family during her depression. "I felt like I was the first person ever in the royal family to openly cry, and nobody knew what to do," she said, adding, "If you haven't seen it before, how do you support it?"
She openly admitted to never wanting to be queen.
When Princess Diana saw herself, she never saw herself as a queen. She admitted during a BBC interview that she would "like to be a queen of people's hearts." And this wasn't a phase she was going through; this was something she felt deeply about.
"I don't think many people would want me to be queen, and when I say many people, I mean the establishment that I'm married into," she continued. "They've decided that I'm a nonstarter because I do things differently because I don't go by a rule book because I lead from the heart and not the head. And albeit that's gotten me into trouble in my work, but someone's gotta go out there and love people."
She gave birth in a hospital.
Princess Diana was a woman who loved to break tradition do things that went out of the royal family rules. When a princess is to give birth, she's expected to do so at home. However, Diana wanted to give birth at a hospital. When Prince William was born in June 1982, she gave birth to him at St. Mary's in London, England.
When Diana had to give birth to her second son, Prince Harry, she did so in the same hospital. The tradition carried on as Prince William's two children were both born at the same hospital as well.
She wanted her sons to go to public school.
Usually, children from the royal family complete their education at the palace with a governess. But Diana didn't want that for her two sons. Instead, she wanted William and Harry to complete their education at a public school. When William was three-years-old, he went to nursery school.
This tradition of royal children going to public school became a tradition as William's son George started his education at Westacre Montessori School, and their daughter when to nursery school. How can a royal family rule over a country if they're not connected to the people living in it?
Her "revenge dress."
How could anyone forget the "revenge dress." When Diana went to the Vanity Fair dinner in 1994, she wanted to turn heads. The same night as the Serpentine event, Charles was going to confess his affair with Camilla Parker Bowles on television publicly.
Diana knew she had to look amazing, so she chose a black form-fitted dress by Greek designer Christina Stambolian. Her former stylist, Anna Harvey, said, "She wanted to look a million dollars. And she did." The dress would later be coined the nickname the "revenge dress."
When she decided to auction off her clothes
Two months before Diana's death, she decided to auction off 70 of her dresses and suits, including the one she wore while dancing with John Travolta and her "Elvis dress." The auction was to raise money for the Royal Marsden Hospital Cancer Fund and the AIDS Crisis Trust.
It was 15-year-old William's idea as Diana wrote in a handwritten note, "The inspiration for this wonderful sale comes from just one person; our son William." In her book, Diana: The Last Word, she admitted of trying too hard to wear clothing that pleased the royal family, and said, "The Queen Mother had terrible taste, which is why I looked so awful."
When she helped banish the stigma around HIV and AIDS
Diana was well-known for being very personal with the people she would visit during public appearances. In 1987, she became the first member of the British royal family to come in physical contact with people who have HIV/AIDS without wearing protective gear.
Diana shook hands with an AIDS patient, saying in a speech, "HIV does not make people dangerous to know. You can shake their hands and give them a hug. Heaven knows they need it." From then on, the negative stigma against people with HIV/AIDS began to change.
When she said, she would "fight till the end."
The royal family wasn't happy after Diana and Charles separated, even though it was due to Prince Charles being unfaithful. From that moment on, the royal family was set on taking down Diana. "[I] won't go quietly, that's the problem," she said, "I'll fight till the end."
In 1993, Diana decided to step out of the public eye, which the royal family was shocked to see. "I'm a great believer that you should always confuse the enemy," she said. "They were undermining me out of fear, because this is a strong woman doing her bit, and where is she getting her strength from to continue?"
When she confronted Camilla Parker Bowles on her affair with Charles
When Andrew Morton released his biography in 1992 called Diana: Her True Story, Diana spoke about her confrontation with Camilla at a 40th birthday party for Camilla's sister. In 1989, Diana discovered the affair happening between her husband, Prince Charles, and Camilla Parker Bowles. Once Diana figured it out, she's decided to talk to Camilla face-to-face. "The voice inside me had said, 'just go for it,'" she explained. "I said, 'I know what's going on between you and Charles and I just want you to know that.'"
Camilla then gave her a "very interesting" reply: "She said to me, 'You've got everything you ever wanted. You've got all the men in the world fall in love with you and you've got two beautiful children, what more do you want?'" Diana recalled. "So I said, 'I want my husband.' I said to Camilla, 'I'm sorry I'm in the way... and it must be hell for both of you. But I do know what's going on. Don't treat me like an idiot".